Your trauma might be impacting your sex life negatively if sex feels demanding, aggressive, or triggers anger and controlling behavior (fight). Your guard is up, anxiety and arousal get confused easily. When trauma is stuck within you your body never really resolves the fight-flight-freeze mode that accompanies a disturbing experience. Anxiety and Excitement Are all Mixed Up in Your Brain Trauma may be driving your sexual connections or lack thereof.ĭo you think that there is inherently something wrong with you?ĭoes losing control sexually feel like powerlessness in your relationship?ĭo you feel that you have the right to say no to anyone that wants you?ĭo you feel that you deserve whatever you get when it comes to sex?Ģ. You See Yourself as Damaged, Diminished, or TargetedĬonsider your answers to the following questions. Some of the things we do (or won’t do) sexually may be linked to a painful past experience that shows up in unexpected ways.Ĭonsider the following indicators that unresolved trauma could be upsetting a healthy sexual connection.ġ. Particularly if they continue to get in your way. Consider that what you may see, or even dismiss, as a sexual preference, fantasy, or irritant may be more. Yet, it often takes support and a qualified therapist to helps us look deeper. When it comes to our sex lives, there really is no reason to think we wouldn’t be affected by trauma. It lives inside us and our relationships, keeping us mired in the tension, drama, and aftershock of it all.
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